Updated: Jan 9, 2020
This scripture has been stirring in my mind for several weeks now & thought I share some reflections from my prayer time with it. I hope it can help shine some insight for someone else!!
John 15:13 There is no greater love than to lay down one's life for a friend. For some reason, I have always taken this scripture as a literal laying down of one's life, but after reflecting & praying over it I'm beginning to see a much deeper meaning behind it.
There are said to be 5 Love languages (Acts of Kindness, Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Physical Touch, and Quality Time), in which each of us has one to two dominating ones. These languages are the way we receive and give love to one another. Since we are all different & by nature a little more self-seeking, this can be a little struggle & can cause some strains on any of our close relationships.
So I asked myself & prayed how do you balance all this since we are all different? And here is what I felt the Holy Spirit laid on my heart; we all have the ability to choose how we are going to allow ourselves to respond, whether we realize it or not we are in control over our feelings. Now I am not saying that the feelings you are having are not legit, because they very much are. However, remember we have the ability to control how we are going to respond!!!
Love is the key component to all relationships (whatever the relationship is in your life), but love is more than just a feeling it's also a decision we make. We choose to love someone, which stands to reason the ability we have to choose how we will allow ourselves to respond to them. I know at times it won't always be easy, and I can honestly say I know I am not always on point in this area. I am human and can and do let my feelings get the best of me! The love languages I'm sure are different from yours & I see/feel things differently. But above all of that, here's what God gave me. I have to put aside myself & my feelings & place those I love above myself (ie.... laying down of one's life). And have to trust and know that in God's timing he will take care of my needs and help me with my feelings.
Learning the love languages and personalities of those you love is so important and critical to a healthy relationship no matter the relationship (spouse, parents, children, friend, etc). There the very elements that will help them feel their value in your life.
I don't know if this will really speak to anyone else, but I hope if needed in your life it does and it will encourage you to go above yourself to see the amazing things God will do through your life and the relationships he places in your life.